Posts Tagged ‘identity’

Due to my last few posts, I have received many comments, some phone calls, and a few emails regarding different aspects that I have touched on and many that I haven’t. I would like to take this post to directly address a number of things.

First and foremost, I would like to apologize to non-judging religious people who I have represented incorrectly or underrepresented completely. You come from all religions. Whether your spiritual book of rules tells you that a certain lifestyle choice is wrong or not, you also understand that it is not your place to judge those who are outside of your religion. You have come in many forms but the active readers that I have noticed most are of the Christian variety. I know many of you personally, and I love you all greatly. And if I don’t know you, I still love you for what you are standing for in this. Thank you all!

Secondly, it has been shown to me that I am not being entirely fair to any group by finding the worst of some groups and setting them against some of the best (in my opinion) of another. That is very wrong of me to do. I am sorry for that and look to change this in how I approach my issues from now on.

Thirdly but really just a secondly afterthought or 2.5 or so, even though I have posted harsh or biased views in the past, I will leave up those blogs. I don’t intend to erase a mistake but wish to leave them up and admit I was wrong. From now on though, I will show Christians in support of gay rights, atheists making a good name for us by supporting this or that, and try my hardest to do as much research as I can about something before I post it. (OR at least note where I am lacking.)

Next, I’d like to thank everyone who has sent me thoughts in one way or another due to recent posts. You have all given me so much to think about. Those of you who have shared your views though they differ greatly from mine, I thank you most. I know it isn’t always easy doing so but it’s important. I have been wrong in the way I have presented some things and extremely biased in others. Thank you for helping me see this.

Finally, I wished that this blog could be a place for respectful debates and peaceful discussions of varying views and it really has been. To all of my readers, even the silent ones, thank you. In just yesterday, I hit 100 views. That amazed me. I can only imagine what some of you are not saying about how my posts make you feel and I just wanted to say that if you are giving me any time of the day, thank you. Whether I have your attention for a minute or for hours after every post, thank you for letting me talk to you. Thank you for taking the time to hear my thoughts.

And even more lastly, many of you have asked about the pastor in the video that talked of caging homosexuals so that they could die off without reproducing. Before I give you his name or the church he belongs to, I’d like to plead with you. Whether you are Christian or atheist, belong to his denomination or not, I beg of you to be respectful. If you write a letter or even give him a call or pay him a visit, do not lower yourself to his level. Instead, conduct yourselves with dignity and show him we do not approve of what he says. If you cannot because your emotions will carry you too far, please refrain until you can speak softer. You will be waiting with me. And we will have to work on that very much. Now for his name: according to this article here and by typing the name into google to verify, he is Charles L. Worley of Providence Road Baptist Church in Maiden, N.C.

Again, thank you all so much for every bit of feedback you have given, every word of mine that you have read and every thought of mine that you have entertained. I look forward to many more posts with you.

Thoughtfully and humbly yours,
~Author Faerie


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I post a lot about gay rights. Especially after NC passed amendment 1. But I’d like to let you hear some voices that aren’t mine. (Yes, I know I’ve already put out a few posts like that already.) In this post, I’m just going to list a few good posts. Though I’ll probably still have some stragglers after this, so bear with me.

How one dad is moving forward after amendment one A call for all kinds to look at future generations and decide what we want to leave for them.

“We’ve been together for seven years, and married in our hearts for five. I hope that one day we can come back here and get issued the marriage license that we deserve.”
I will keep fighting for people like this.

That old refrain marriage is between a man and a woman It’s getting a bit worn out.

That should do it for now.

But before I finish this I have a note for my readers, especially my dedicated ones on the opposite belief scale from me: I never intend to lump you all in together when I point out the worst of your fellow believers. I know some of you are very supportive of things you’d rather not be because of your beliefs. To those of you like this, I greatly thank you. You are the reasons I will continue to fight for your right to practice whatever religion you choose.

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I watched this today and became very upset. Atheists do exist. That is not up for debate. I am one, I hang out with many and see even more. We exist and we want others to know that they aren’t alone. That is what these billboards are for. They do not impose on religious beliefs. They rally a kind together.

Watch this:

Under attack? Really?.

I don’t say that Christians don’t exist because they are of a belief that is opposite of mine. Mainly because its stupid. I know they exist and I love many Christians. They are among my family and friends. Some of them read this blog. You exist and so does your religion. I exist, as does atheism. We can debate about who’s right only after admitting that we both exist.

So, hi, I’m an atheist. What are you? Let’s talk and be civil. I’m not threatening your beliefs just by holding different ones. We threaten each other when we deny a right because of these beliefs. So let’s not do that here. How about we just talk.

What do you say to that? Truce.

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I mentioned being upset over the proposed NC amendment one. Sadly, it passed. North Carolina now recognizes only marriages between a man and a women. You can look up all the dangers on your own of what can now happen to civil unions and domestic partnerships. Just google the amendment and you’ll get personal stories, political stories, news, and so many other things to field through.

But really, just watch this and try to feel what he feels no matter what you think about the LGBT community.

Thank you for your time.

PS If you haven’t yet and it applies to you: please sign this.

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A while back I posted this article asking you to read this one. It talks about loving people beyond who your beliefs declare as “not sinning” like heterosexual people. I’m not going to say much about this response post – because it says enough for itself – except that it hit me hard. Please just take the time to read this. It won’t take much of your time and it may just change you. Thanks.

A Teen’s Brave Response to “I’m Christian, Unless You’re Gay”.

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I found this today and wanted to share it with my readers because I know some of you are in this category of people.

If you read through the comments, please note that I do not share the same view as all of them. I believe that you are all capable (no matter what your belief) to fully understand this experiment. Even if you have the same views at the end, I appreciate you attempting this.

Although I would recommend trying a slightly different experiment as suggested in one comment. Try thinking of yourself in your same mindset,attractions and lifestyle but in the body of the opposite sex. Then go through the experiment and try it again.

Share your thoughts and reactions after you finish with one or both experiments. Maybe we can get a good discussion going to help everyone see all sides.

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“Don’t regret anything you do, cause in the end it makes you who you are”

I found that quote somewhere, but I don’t agree with it.

The quote doesn’t carry much hope for those of us with a rough past. We’ve made mistakes we can’t take back or lied to people we care about. Some of us have pretended to be someone we aren’t for so long that it’s painful to look in the mirror anymore.

It hurts when I look back to those parts of my past. I don’t like who my past has made me. Sometimes I just want to rip off the rear-view mirror of my life to stop from looking back at that car wreck behind me.

I still haven’t fully forgiven myself for everything I’ve done. It’s funny though, since I forgive friends because their friendship means more than their mistake. When you forgive someone, you are supposed to forget that mistake as well, right? So what about your relationship with yourself? It’s hard to forget, because you have to deal with the consequences of your past every day.

So what is the answer? The fact is, there is no easy answer. I can’t look back to the past and say I don’t regret things. That’s not who I am, and it’s not who I want to be.

The past doesn’t make you who you are. It simply explains how you got to where you are in life. From there you decide to change what you can and forgive what you can’t. The past is just that: the past. As hard as it might be, we have to move our focus away from the past. We have the future to look forward to and the present to live in.

~Author Faerie, with a lot of help from a friend

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