Posts Tagged ‘encouragement’


This blog has been a ghost town for about four months now. I’m not sure if it was my longest hiatus but it was definitely another long one.

I could bore you with excuses that hold no weight anyway or tell you what I’ve been up to (I won NaNoWriMo this year by the way) but really, I don’t want to.

Let me be honest here. This blog here, good old Writing Wings, started out as a fun experiment for me. And I learned a lot and had fun. But I changed my intention of this blog way too much. And now that I’ve been away for so long, it’s just a quiet but persistent nagging in the back of my mind.

I don’t want to write here anymore though. I have a balance of old friends and new friends, family and perfect strangers, atheists and Christians. It’s a bit tiring to balance my audience here. I do want to keep blogging though. But I want to do it for me.

I’ll be writing elsewhere. Sometimes stories, sometimes political rants, sometimes perfect chaos of nonsense. But I’m not going to tell you what the blog is. If you discover it, you can read it. Most likely because you will find it by tags that will show that you are looking for my type of writing. I want my new audience to like me for what I write, not who I am.

I will be closing out all of the pages of this blog except the blog itself. They will remain online and public for as long as I don’t feel shameful for them. If you would like, go back and read old stuff. Or just walk away from here like I will after posting this.

For all of you still here, I’d like to thank you most of all. My audience. No matter who you are, what you believe, whether I know you or not. If you have stuck around until this very end, thank you. You have made me feel like I wasn’t just clicking keys for nothing. You all are great.

Thanks for the great ride.
~Author Faerie :)


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Yay! Camping has finally started! Woo hoo!

And guess what?! I’m already ahead! Not by much but still ahead!

Here are a few tips that I’ve found this year already or are leftover from last year’s NaNo:

    1. Don’t blog/surf online for fun/etc until you’ve at least matched where you are supposed to be for that day.
    2. Get ahead as much as possible when you are in the zone. You will need that stock up later in the month. I promise.
    3. If you don’t have an outline yet, take a break and put some of your writing time towards putting together at least a vague one. It will help you tremendously. And you’ll make up that time no doubt.
    4. IF you have an outline but get stuck somewhere, skip it! That’s what the outline is for! Write scenes out-of-order and whatever you have in your head at the moment. It will save you a lot of wasted “writing block” time.
    5. Similar to the last one, learn to use the brackets as ways to insert a thought like [and then they do something that gets them to the place where _____ happens]. Seriously, you will love yourself later on and either save yourself from writers blocks or even boring scenes.
    6. Other suggestions for brackets are things that you need to fix with characters or plot holes but don’t want to waste precious writing time on that stuff, such as [change Sam’s name to Jessica from this point forward], [go back and fix Chelsea’s back story so that she now has a sister] and [act as if Owen and Jadara haven’t met yet]. Just don’t put your entire story in brackets. That defeats the point of writing a story.
    7. If your morning allows for it, get some writing in before you take off for the day. It will boost your confidence knowing that you at least have a few (or more) words already under your belt for the day. I did that today and it felt great. :) You won’t regret it if you do but don’t go out of your way to try this if you aren’t a morning person.

Well hopefully my first round of tips is somewhat helpful for someone. Mainly just keep writing, if you come to a block, skip it or just write something else entirely until you get an idea. Good luck campers!

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Well, online anyway. :)

This June I will participating in Camp NaNoWriMo. It is a summer version of the regular NaNoWriMo in November. I will still be trying to complete a 50,000 word novel but the twist during the camp months (there is also an August camp) is the addition of cabins. Each cabin holds six writers to write together and encourage each other throughout the month. It’s a great idea for a camp like this. Online encouragement of people doing the same crazy thing that you are.

On a personal note, I am very ready to start writing. I’m hoping that this month goes better than my last attempt in November. I learned a lot of tricks then that I will be applying during camp. Only three days left.

So if you are camping along with me, good luck!

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Due to my last few posts, I have received many comments, some phone calls, and a few emails regarding different aspects that I have touched on and many that I haven’t. I would like to take this post to directly address a number of things.

First and foremost, I would like to apologize to non-judging religious people who I have represented incorrectly or underrepresented completely. You come from all religions. Whether your spiritual book of rules tells you that a certain lifestyle choice is wrong or not, you also understand that it is not your place to judge those who are outside of your religion. You have come in many forms but the active readers that I have noticed most are of the Christian variety. I know many of you personally, and I love you all greatly. And if I don’t know you, I still love you for what you are standing for in this. Thank you all!

Secondly, it has been shown to me that I am not being entirely fair to any group by finding the worst of some groups and setting them against some of the best (in my opinion) of another. That is very wrong of me to do. I am sorry for that and look to change this in how I approach my issues from now on.

Thirdly but really just a secondly afterthought or 2.5 or so, even though I have posted harsh or biased views in the past, I will leave up those blogs. I don’t intend to erase a mistake but wish to leave them up and admit I was wrong. From now on though, I will show Christians in support of gay rights, atheists making a good name for us by supporting this or that, and try my hardest to do as much research as I can about something before I post it. (OR at least note where I am lacking.)

Next, I’d like to thank everyone who has sent me thoughts in one way or another due to recent posts. You have all given me so much to think about. Those of you who have shared your views though they differ greatly from mine, I thank you most. I know it isn’t always easy doing so but it’s important. I have been wrong in the way I have presented some things and extremely biased in others. Thank you for helping me see this.

Finally, I wished that this blog could be a place for respectful debates and peaceful discussions of varying views and it really has been. To all of my readers, even the silent ones, thank you. In just yesterday, I hit 100 views. That amazed me. I can only imagine what some of you are not saying about how my posts make you feel and I just wanted to say that if you are giving me any time of the day, thank you. Whether I have your attention for a minute or for hours after every post, thank you for letting me talk to you. Thank you for taking the time to hear my thoughts.

And even more lastly, many of you have asked about the pastor in the video that talked of caging homosexuals so that they could die off without reproducing. Before I give you his name or the church he belongs to, I’d like to plead with you. Whether you are Christian or atheist, belong to his denomination or not, I beg of you to be respectful. If you write a letter or even give him a call or pay him a visit, do not lower yourself to his level. Instead, conduct yourselves with dignity and show him we do not approve of what he says. If you cannot because your emotions will carry you too far, please refrain until you can speak softer. You will be waiting with me. And we will have to work on that very much. Now for his name: according to this article here and by typing the name into google to verify, he is Charles L. Worley of Providence Road Baptist Church in Maiden, N.C.

Again, thank you all so much for every bit of feedback you have given, every word of mine that you have read and every thought of mine that you have entertained. I look forward to many more posts with you.

Thoughtfully and humbly yours,
~Author Faerie

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I post a lot about gay rights. Especially after NC passed amendment 1. But I’d like to let you hear some voices that aren’t mine. (Yes, I know I’ve already put out a few posts like that already.) In this post, I’m just going to list a few good posts. Though I’ll probably still have some stragglers after this, so bear with me.

How one dad is moving forward after amendment one A call for all kinds to look at future generations and decide what we want to leave for them.

“We’ve been together for seven years, and married in our hearts for five. I hope that one day we can come back here and get issued the marriage license that we deserve.”
I will keep fighting for people like this.

That old refrain marriage is between a man and a woman It’s getting a bit worn out.

That should do it for now.

But before I finish this I have a note for my readers, especially my dedicated ones on the opposite belief scale from me: I never intend to lump you all in together when I point out the worst of your fellow believers. I know some of you are very supportive of things you’d rather not be because of your beliefs. To those of you like this, I greatly thank you. You are the reasons I will continue to fight for your right to practice whatever religion you choose.

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A while back I posted this article asking you to read this one. It talks about loving people beyond who your beliefs declare as “not sinning” like heterosexual people. I’m not going to say much about this response post – because it says enough for itself – except that it hit me hard. Please just take the time to read this. It won’t take much of your time and it may just change you. Thanks.

A Teen’s Brave Response to “I’m Christian, Unless You’re Gay”.

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Homosexual. Government. Smoking. Marriage. Atheist. Vegetarian. Sex. Depression. Elope. Alcohol. Diploma. Pollution. Baby. Media. Religious. Homeless. Abortion. Love. Spontaneous. Therapy. Death. Skeptical. Anorexia. Foreign. Charity. Activist. War. Divorce. Evolution. Technology. Jail.

Did I make you feel uneasy with at least one of those words? Probably. I really shouldn’t have though.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I have strong opinions on each of those issues. And at least one is in contrast to your view of the word.

Don’t worry, I won’t hit all of those in this one blog – I will barely touch on two actually. Everything in that first list of words will be covered in later blog posts. Instead, I very much want to cover that feeling of uneasiness.

I want you to go back and look through that list again. Take note of the ones that make you feel uneasy. Also take notes of the ones that you read with no problem or even with a smile on your face.

Why do certain words make you feel uneasy but others are perfectly fine with you? Think about it for a while.

Have you come up with your answer? Because I have. And it all comes down to one word.


There are many things that make up your lifestyle right now. A lot of what you feel easy or uneasy about stems from these two basic areas: belief and daily life. Do you follow some form of Christianity, Muslim, Hinduism, something else or are you an atheist? Are you in high school or college with a class work load? Do you work part-time, full-time, have a few jobs or are you unemployed? What about a family? Are you close to your parents, siblings, or extended relatives? Do you have a spouse and/or kids?

I bet most – if not all – of your reasons for feeling uneasy are part of one of those two concepts. And that’s normal and fine. But let me throw another word at you.


Here it is again: different.

And one more time. DIFFERENT.

Those words that make you feel uneasy, is it simply because they are different from your lifestyle?

No, really. Is that it? Do these concepts throw a loop into your beliefs or daily life? Do they make you think and ask to change what you believe? In some cases, yeah they might. But for the most part, many of those things just exist out there in the world and are simply different from how you deal with them personally.

Your friend eats differently than you. If once in a while you have to make an odd meal when they come over, is it really something to complain about? A meal takes about an hour at the most to make and roughly half an hour to an hour to eat depending on your social interactions during the meal. So what are we looking at? A few hours maximum maybe once a week? Or if that person lives with you, you adopt a slightly different eating style, make them a different meal or a variation of your meal. That’s not a big deal at all.

Think about this: if you are heterosexual and never meet a homosexual or homosexual and never meet a heterosexual, does that other lifestyle ever affect you? No, right? So it shouldn’t matter to you who they marry or sleep with.

I’m about to make my point so listen closely. These different lifestyles, if they don’t come in contact with you, should never matter to you. But they do. You have opinions on sexual orientation and eating habits of those that are different from you. Why?

It’s another thing if they are in your group of friends, your family or at your work. Even then though, is it really that big of a deal?

So the difference of sexual orientation makes you uneasy. Especially your good friend who has now told you they are attracted to your gender and makes you uncomfortable because you don’t like them back. I’m going to end this one quickly for you. You don’t like every guy or girl that crosses your path and neither do they. Just because they now like your gender does not mean they automatically feel a romantic ping when they look at you. End of story.

So here are some closing thoughts for you to think on: why are you so uneasy about these things? Are they really that big of a deal when you think about them? And if they are, I urge you to consider why you feel so strongly against that different view.

In a perfect world, the homosexual and heterosexual lifestyles would never affect each other. But consider this: our government has some laws in place that shut down some people from acting on a basic right such as who to love and marry. Those lifestyles do affect each other in our world today.

What if it were the reverse though? What if your view was being shut down? What if heterosexual people couldn’t get married but homosexuals could? I’m sure heterosexual people would fight just as strongly as the homosexuals are now. And it would be no different. You are or would be fighting for the simple idea to pick who to love and marry. That’s it.

Think about it. Reverse things in your head so that you are the party being threatened. Wouldn’t you fight for your rights?

You don’t need to change your lifestyle. That isn’t what I’m after at all. Not everyone has to be homosexual, not everyone has to be heterosexual. Everybody is different. If we were all the same, then we would all be mindless drones that do everything the same way, with the same beliefs and the same reactions to everything. We aren’t like that and I don’t think anyone actually wants that.

I’m not even asking you to get rid of your belief that homosexuality is a sin. But you have to ask where does your freedom end, and someone else’s begin? It’s not our place to judge. In many beliefs, God is the ultimate judge and since you are not God, you should not judge. Humans are not all-knowing. You could be right about what you believe, but you could be wrong. It’s hard to tell.

This is not a battle to show people the right or wrong paths of life. It is the original American battle, the battle to let everyone live however they wish to live. I know a lot of people who fight for the rights of opposing parties. Heterosexual people voting for legalizing homosexual marriage. Atheists fighting for Christians to be able to continue openly praying. Meat eaters fighting for more vegetarian options in restaurants.

This is what I want. Opposing sides fighting for each other instead of against each other. Even better, not having to fight at all. Is that really too much to ask?

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