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Due to my last few posts, I have received many comments, some phone calls, and a few emails regarding different aspects that I have touched on and many that I haven’t. I would like to take this post to directly address a number of things.

First and foremost, I would like to apologize to non-judging religious people who I have represented incorrectly or underrepresented completely. You come from all religions. Whether your spiritual book of rules tells you that a certain lifestyle choice is wrong or not, you also understand that it is not your place to judge those who are outside of your religion. You have come in many forms but the active readers that I have noticed most are of the Christian variety. I know many of you personally, and I love you all greatly. And if I don’t know you, I still love you for what you are standing for in this. Thank you all!

Secondly, it has been shown to me that I am not being entirely fair to any group by finding the worst of some groups and setting them against some of the best (in my opinion) of another. That is very wrong of me to do. I am sorry for that and look to change this in how I approach my issues from now on.

Thirdly but really just a secondly afterthought or 2.5 or so, even though I have posted harsh or biased views in the past, I will leave up those blogs. I don’t intend to erase a mistake but wish to leave them up and admit I was wrong. From now on though, I will show Christians in support of gay rights, atheists making a good name for us by supporting this or that, and try my hardest to do as much research as I can about something before I post it. (OR at least note where I am lacking.)

Next, I’d like to thank everyone who has sent me thoughts in one way or another due to recent posts. You have all given me so much to think about. Those of you who have shared your views though they differ greatly from mine, I thank you most. I know it isn’t always easy doing so but it’s important. I have been wrong in the way I have presented some things and extremely biased in others. Thank you for helping me see this.

Finally, I wished that this blog could be a place for respectful debates and peaceful discussions of varying views and it really has been. To all of my readers, even the silent ones, thank you. In just yesterday, I hit 100 views. That amazed me. I can only imagine what some of you are not saying about how my posts make you feel and I just wanted to say that if you are giving me any time of the day, thank you. Whether I have your attention for a minute or for hours after every post, thank you for letting me talk to you. Thank you for taking the time to hear my thoughts.

And even more lastly, many of you have asked about the pastor in the video that talked of caging homosexuals so that they could die off without reproducing. Before I give you his name or the church he belongs to, I’d like to plead with you. Whether you are Christian or atheist, belong to his denomination or not, I beg of you to be respectful. If you write a letter or even give him a call or pay him a visit, do not lower yourself to his level. Instead, conduct yourselves with dignity and show him we do not approve of what he says. If you cannot because your emotions will carry you too far, please refrain until you can speak softer. You will be waiting with me. And we will have to work on that very much. Now for his name: according to this article here and by typing the name into google to verify, he is Charles L. Worley of Providence Road Baptist Church in Maiden, N.C.

Again, thank you all so much for every bit of feedback you have given, every word of mine that you have read and every thought of mine that you have entertained. I look forward to many more posts with you.

Thoughtfully and humbly yours,
~Author Faerie


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A big problem. I am extremely mad.

There is no excuse for this.

You, pastor in video, are the reason hate runs rampant in our. I was always taught the Christians were good and peaceful. I still believe that some are. But you make that very hard for the ones that actually are. Do you remember “love your neighbor as yourself” or “whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me” or even “do onto others as you would have them do to you”? Tell me, would you like to live like this? I do not care how you excuse your hate. I will not tolerate this. You are the mind of those I will stand against.

Christians who really are peaceful and outraged by this man, please don’t let your church be run by someone like him. Please stay peaceful. You can not like the act of homosexuality, but please never reach the point where you threaten the LGBT community like this. Thank you for your peacefulness. I wish I could hug you. We need more like you.

EDIT: According to this article here and by typing the name into google to verify, he is Charles L. Worley of Providence Road Baptist Church in Maiden, N.C.

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I post a lot about gay rights. Especially after NC passed amendment 1. But I’d like to let you hear some voices that aren’t mine. (Yes, I know I’ve already put out a few posts like that already.) In this post, I’m just going to list a few good posts. Though I’ll probably still have some stragglers after this, so bear with me.

How one dad is moving forward after amendment one A call for all kinds to look at future generations and decide what we want to leave for them.

“We’ve been together for seven years, and married in our hearts for five. I hope that one day we can come back here and get issued the marriage license that we deserve.”
I will keep fighting for people like this.

That old refrain marriage is between a man and a woman It’s getting a bit worn out.

That should do it for now.

But before I finish this I have a note for my readers, especially my dedicated ones on the opposite belief scale from me: I never intend to lump you all in together when I point out the worst of your fellow believers. I know some of you are very supportive of things you’d rather not be because of your beliefs. To those of you like this, I greatly thank you. You are the reasons I will continue to fight for your right to practice whatever religion you choose.

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In North Carolina, there is an amendment on the ballot that will make marriage between a man and a women the only domestic and legal union to be recognized and valid in the state. Now to most of you this will seem as just a homosexual issue and mainly that’s what it is about. But there are so many other dangerous things that could happen if this passes on May 8.

Now I could get into all those other details but really a bunch of facts and statistics aren’t going to change minds. If that was as easy as it was, this ballot wouldn’t have been put to vote.

No, the problem here is the mindset of the majority when looking at homosexual couples. It isn’t threatening. Forget for a moment about AIDs, that spreads without protection (something that heterosexual couples can forget as well) or other careless sleeping around (again something that hetero people do as well) and all that other “gay disease” stuff. Instead think about real people trying to just live life and happen to love someone of the same-sex romantically. Why don’t you just read about this family?

Or maybe watch this:

If neither of these doesn’t affect you, then I am sorry for you.

LGBT parents are out there struggling to make a good life for their children just like heterosexual parents are. Same-sex couples are just trying to get by just as everyone else is. The big difference is that The LGBT is discriminated against as well and have to worry about that nonsense crap as well.

Your religion or god may tell you that it is wrong or sinful but you should care more about loving them than restricting them.

If you are voting on this amendment on May 8, please vote against it. All real and true and valid families that love each other need protection.

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A while back I posted this article asking you to read this one. It talks about loving people beyond who your beliefs declare as “not sinning” like heterosexual people. I’m not going to say much about this response post – because it says enough for itself – except that it hit me hard. Please just take the time to read this. It won’t take much of your time and it may just change you. Thanks.

A Teen’s Brave Response to “I’m Christian, Unless You’re Gay”.

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I found this today and wanted to share it with my readers because I know some of you are in this category of people.

If you read through the comments, please note that I do not share the same view as all of them. I believe that you are all capable (no matter what your belief) to fully understand this experiment. Even if you have the same views at the end, I appreciate you attempting this.

Although I would recommend trying a slightly different experiment as suggested in one comment. Try thinking of yourself in your same mindset,attractions and lifestyle but in the body of the opposite sex. Then go through the experiment and try it again.

Share your thoughts and reactions after you finish with one or both experiments. Maybe we can get a good discussion going to help everyone see all sides.

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Homosexual. Government. Smoking. Marriage. Atheist. Vegetarian. Sex. Depression. Elope. Alcohol. Diploma. Pollution. Baby. Media. Religious. Homeless. Abortion. Love. Spontaneous. Therapy. Death. Skeptical. Anorexia. Foreign. Charity. Activist. War. Divorce. Evolution. Technology. Jail.

Did I make you feel uneasy with at least one of those words? Probably. I really shouldn’t have though.

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. I have strong opinions on each of those issues. And at least one is in contrast to your view of the word.

Don’t worry, I won’t hit all of those in this one blog – I will barely touch on two actually. Everything in that first list of words will be covered in later blog posts. Instead, I very much want to cover that feeling of uneasiness.

I want you to go back and look through that list again. Take note of the ones that make you feel uneasy. Also take notes of the ones that you read with no problem or even with a smile on your face.

Why do certain words make you feel uneasy but others are perfectly fine with you? Think about it for a while.

Have you come up with your answer? Because I have. And it all comes down to one word.


There are many things that make up your lifestyle right now. A lot of what you feel easy or uneasy about stems from these two basic areas: belief and daily life. Do you follow some form of Christianity, Muslim, Hinduism, something else or are you an atheist? Are you in high school or college with a class work load? Do you work part-time, full-time, have a few jobs or are you unemployed? What about a family? Are you close to your parents, siblings, or extended relatives? Do you have a spouse and/or kids?

I bet most – if not all – of your reasons for feeling uneasy are part of one of those two concepts. And that’s normal and fine. But let me throw another word at you.


Here it is again: different.

And one more time. DIFFERENT.

Those words that make you feel uneasy, is it simply because they are different from your lifestyle?

No, really. Is that it? Do these concepts throw a loop into your beliefs or daily life? Do they make you think and ask to change what you believe? In some cases, yeah they might. But for the most part, many of those things just exist out there in the world and are simply different from how you deal with them personally.

Your friend eats differently than you. If once in a while you have to make an odd meal when they come over, is it really something to complain about? A meal takes about an hour at the most to make and roughly half an hour to an hour to eat depending on your social interactions during the meal. So what are we looking at? A few hours maximum maybe once a week? Or if that person lives with you, you adopt a slightly different eating style, make them a different meal or a variation of your meal. That’s not a big deal at all.

Think about this: if you are heterosexual and never meet a homosexual or homosexual and never meet a heterosexual, does that other lifestyle ever affect you? No, right? So it shouldn’t matter to you who they marry or sleep with.

I’m about to make my point so listen closely. These different lifestyles, if they don’t come in contact with you, should never matter to you. But they do. You have opinions on sexual orientation and eating habits of those that are different from you. Why?

It’s another thing if they are in your group of friends, your family or at your work. Even then though, is it really that big of a deal?

So the difference of sexual orientation makes you uneasy. Especially your good friend who has now told you they are attracted to your gender and makes you uncomfortable because you don’t like them back. I’m going to end this one quickly for you. You don’t like every guy or girl that crosses your path and neither do they. Just because they now like your gender does not mean they automatically feel a romantic ping when they look at you. End of story.

So here are some closing thoughts for you to think on: why are you so uneasy about these things? Are they really that big of a deal when you think about them? And if they are, I urge you to consider why you feel so strongly against that different view.

In a perfect world, the homosexual and heterosexual lifestyles would never affect each other. But consider this: our government has some laws in place that shut down some people from acting on a basic right such as who to love and marry. Those lifestyles do affect each other in our world today.

What if it were the reverse though? What if your view was being shut down? What if heterosexual people couldn’t get married but homosexuals could? I’m sure heterosexual people would fight just as strongly as the homosexuals are now. And it would be no different. You are or would be fighting for the simple idea to pick who to love and marry. That’s it.

Think about it. Reverse things in your head so that you are the party being threatened. Wouldn’t you fight for your rights?

You don’t need to change your lifestyle. That isn’t what I’m after at all. Not everyone has to be homosexual, not everyone has to be heterosexual. Everybody is different. If we were all the same, then we would all be mindless drones that do everything the same way, with the same beliefs and the same reactions to everything. We aren’t like that and I don’t think anyone actually wants that.

I’m not even asking you to get rid of your belief that homosexuality is a sin. But you have to ask where does your freedom end, and someone else’s begin? It’s not our place to judge. In many beliefs, God is the ultimate judge and since you are not God, you should not judge. Humans are not all-knowing. You could be right about what you believe, but you could be wrong. It’s hard to tell.

This is not a battle to show people the right or wrong paths of life. It is the original American battle, the battle to let everyone live however they wish to live. I know a lot of people who fight for the rights of opposing parties. Heterosexual people voting for legalizing homosexual marriage. Atheists fighting for Christians to be able to continue openly praying. Meat eaters fighting for more vegetarian options in restaurants.

This is what I want. Opposing sides fighting for each other instead of against each other. Even better, not having to fight at all. Is that really too much to ask?

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